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FORMING GOOD HABITS

We are all born to lead successful lives but our conditioning leads us to failure. We are born to win but are conditioned to lose. We often hear statements like, this person is just lucky, he touches dirt and turns to gold. Or he is unlucky, no matter what he touches, it runs to dirt. This is not true. If you analyse, the successful person is doing something right in each transaction and the failure is repeating the same mistake in each transaction. Remember, practice does not make perfect. Only perfect practice makes perfect. Practice makes permanent whatever you do repeatedly. Some people keep practicing their mistakes and they become perfect in them.

Professionals make things look easy because they have mastered the fundamentals of whatever they do. Many people do good work with promotions in mind. But the one to whom good work becomes habit is deserving.

Cultivating a habit is like ploughing the field. It takes time. It has to grow from within. Habits generate other habits. Inspiration is what gets a person started, motivation is what keeps him on track and habits is what makes it automatic.

Traits are not coincidences; they are the result of constant and consistent draining, both mental and physical. In the face of adversity our behavior can only be the one we have practiced, regardless of whether it is positive or negative. When we practice negative traits such as cowardice or dishonesty in small events, hoping to handle the major ones in a positive way, the latter wouldn’t happen because that is not what we have practised.

When we permit ourselves to tell a lie once, it is a lot easier to do it a second and third time until it become a habit. Success lies in the philosophy of sustain and abstain. Sustain what needs to be done and abstain from what is detrimental until this becomes habitual. Human beings are more emotional than rational. Honesty and integrity are both the result of our belief system and practice. Anything we practice long enough becomes ingrained into our system and becomes a habit. A person who is honest most of the time gets caught the first time he tells a lie. Whereas a person who is dishonest most of the time gets caught the first time he tells the truth. Honesty and dishonesty to self and others both become habits.


HOW DO WE FORM HABITS

Anything we do repeatedly becomes a habit. We learn by doing. By believing courageously, we learn courage. By practicing these traits we master them. The reverse is also true. Attitudes are habits. They are behaviour patterns. They become a state of mind and dictate our response.


Most of our behavior is habitual. It comes automatically without thinking. Character is the sum total of our habits. If a person has positive habits, then he is considered a positive character. A person with negative habits is a negative character. Habits are a lot stronger than logic and reasoning. Habits start by being too weak to be felt, and end up becoming too strong to get out of. Habits can be developed by default or determination. You may remember as child your parents telling you, “You should form good habits because habits form character.”
Our thinking pattern becomes habitual. We form habit and habits form character. Before you relies that you have got the habit, the habit has got you. We need to form the habit of thinking right. Someone said, “Our thoughts lead to actions, actions lead to habits, and habits form characters, Character leads to destiny."
Success lies in the philosophy of sustain and abstain. Sustain what needs to be done and abstain from what is detrimental until this becomes habitual. Human beings are more emotional than rational. Honesty and integrity are both the result of our belief system and practice. Anything we practice long enough becomes a habit.
CONDITIONING
Most of our behaviour comes as a result of conditioning it is habitual. If we want to do anything well, it must become automatic. If we have to consciously think about doing the right things we will be able to do it well. That means we must make it a habit.

We are all being conditioned continuously be the environment and the media. And we start behaving like robots. It is our responsibility to condition ourselves in a positive manner

THE GIGO PRINCIPLE
The computer phrase GIGO- ‘Garbage in Garbage out’ is very sound in real life also.

Negative in; Negative out.
Positivity in; Positivity out.
Good in; Good out.

Our input equals to our out put. Our subconscious mind does not discriminate. What ever choose to put into subconscious mind it will accept and our behavior will reflect that accordingly.

It is our responsibility to condition ourselves in a positive manner


THE CONSCIOUS AND SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
Remember, our conscious mind has the ability to think. It can accept or reject. But the subconscious only accepts, it makes no distinction regarding input. If we feed our mind with thoughts of fear, doubt, and hate, the auto-suggestions will activate and translate those things into reality. The subconscious is the databank. Of the two, the latter is more powerful. The subconscious is like the automobile while the conscious is like the driver.

The subconscious mind can work for or against us. It is not rational. When we are not successful we need to reprogramme the subconscious. Habits can help such reprogramming.

Our subconscious mind is like a garden. It does not car what you plant. It is neutral, it has no preferences. But if you plant good seeds, you will have a good garden; other wise you will have a wild growth of weeds. I have gone to a step further to say even if you plant good seeds, weeds will still grow an weeding process continues constantly.

The human mind is no different. Remember positive and negative thoughts cannot occupy the mind simultaneously.

If we want to build a pleasing personality, we have to examine out habits closely. What begins as an occasional indulgence turns into a permanent flow. We need to control our habits by exercising control and self-discipline over our thoughts. We need to harness the power of the subconscious mind. You need to cultivate the habits during childhood which build character in adulthood. Plan the right things early in life. But it is never too late to start. Every exposure to a positive or negative makes a difference. Learning new habits takes time but positive habits, once mastered, give new meaning to life.

When people recognize or become aware of their negative habits, why don’t they change? The reason they don’t because they refuse to accept responsibility. Besides, the pleasure of continuing is greater than the pain. They may lack the desire to change, lack the discipline to change, lack the belief that they can change or lack the awareness for the need to change.

All these factors prevent us from getting rid of our negative habits. We all have a choice. We can ignore negative behavior and hope it will go away-the ostrich approach- or face up to it and overcome it for life. Behavior modification comes from overcoming irrational fears and getting out of the comfort zone.

The secret of successful people is that they form the habit of doing things that failures don’t like to do and won’t do. Just think about the things failures won’t like to do. They are the same things that successful people don’t like to do but they do them any way.
All habits start small but end up eventually being very difficult to break. Attitudes are habits and can be changed. It is a question of breaking and replacing old negative habits with new and positive ones.

It is easier to prevent bad habits than to overcome them. Good habits come from overcoming temptation. Happiness and unhappiness are habits. Excellence is the result of repeated conscious effort until it becomes a habit. It needs enough practice to become a habit.

EMBRACE COSMIC HABIT FORCES
Faith: Let your mind dwell on positive ideas and on clearing away all negative influences and fears. This takes self-discipline.
  1. Definiteness of Purpose : This is the primary good habit. It makes you more alert, more imaginative, more enthusiastic and increase your will power.
  2. Personal Initiative : You may have to force yourself at first to do things without being told to do them. But persistence will make it easier.
  3. Enthusiasm : Remember that controlled enthusiasm is your goal. You will want to be able to summon it at will or shut it off when it is not appropriate or might actually be dangerous.
  4. Self Discipline : This is a circular process, the more you exercise it, the more you have it.
  5. Going the Extra mile : start right now by doing something for which you don’t expect to be paid directly. Go the extra mile everyday by sheer if necessary and soon the effort will be replaced by habit.





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