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Thursday, June 12, 2008

Positive Attitude

Importance of Positive Attitude

“The greatest discovery of my generation is human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind”
……… William James

Positive attitude can do wonders. It can make possible what is seemingly impossible for the others. Positive attitude is the seed out of which positive traits, which are essential for success sprout forth. It is the positive attitude again which waters and feeds the sapling of positive traits.

Your mind is a machine of thoughts and ideas. If you so not fill it up with positive, inspiring and motivating thoughts, it will turn into a jungle of negative thoughts. Your mind is a beautiful garden, if you do not plant and nurture sapling of beautiful flowering plants in it, it will turn into a mess of wild creepers, bushes and thorny plants.

Your mind is a huge factory charming out ideas and thoughts. You are the supervisor of this factory. You have two foremen at your beck and call. Mr.Yes and Mr. No. As soon as your factory produces a great idea, you invite both the foremen to discuss its execution. Both of them as their names go, suggest accordingly. It is up to you to follow their advice or not. If you begin to follow the advice of ‘Mr. No’ more and more, you begin to develop a negative attitude. A time comes when ‘Mr. No’ has taken a complete control of your thought process. By and by a time comes when before you could let a great idea seep within you, ‘Mr No.’ comes and thrushes it out of shape, so much so that ‘Mr. No’ takes a complete control over you.

If success is what something really attracts you, and sure does everyone,then you must make a deep association with ‘Mr. Yes’, your positive foreman.
  “the greatest discovery of my generation is human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind”


The famous French Philosopher Blaise Pascal was once approached by someone. The visitor said, “If I had your brains, I would be a better person.” Pascal replied, “Be a better person and you will have my brains.”
Most of our attitude is shaped during our formative years. There are primarily three ‘E’ factors that determine our attitude – Environment, Experience and Education. In a positive environment, a marginal performer’s out put goes up. In a negative environment, a good performer’s output goes down. Similarly, if you have a positive experience with person, our attitude towards him becomes positive and vice versa. And finally, education ought to teach not only how to make a living but also how to live.

Absence of negativity alone does not make a person positive. People with positive attitudes have certain personality traits that are easy to recognize. They are caring, confident, patient and humble. They have high expectations of themselves and others. They anticipate positive outcomes.

On the other hand, people with a negative attitude have a hard time keeping friendships, jobs and relationships. They create a negative environment at home and work and become a liability to society. They also pass on their negative behavior to other around them and to future generations.

It would be a lot easier and better to have acquired a positive attitude during our formative years. But it does not mean that if we acquire a negative attitude, whether by desire or by default, we are stuck with it. We can change it, though it would be a bit difficult. For this you have to get away from the past. Dust yourself of, get back into the mainstream. Put your dreams together and move forward. Thinking of the positive things that true, honest and good, will put you in a positive state of mind. Besides, one needs to consciously practice the following steps.

A balloon when released goes up not because of its colour or shape, it is what is inside that makes it go up. The same application can be found in our lives. It is what is inside that count. The thing inside of us that makes us go up is our attitude.

William James once said,

Change focus, look for the positive. We need to become good finders, we need to focus on the positive in life. Let’s start looking for what is right in a person or situation, instead of looking for what is wrong. Because of our conditioning, we are so attuned to finding fault and looking for what is wrong that we forget to see the positive picture. There is something positive in every person and every situation. Sometimes we have to dig deep to look for the positive because it may not be apparent. Besides, we are so used to looking for what is wrong with other people and situations that we forget to see what is right. Someone once said that even a stopped clock is right twice a day.
Make a habit of doing it now. A completed task is fulfilling and energizing. An incomplete task drains energy like a leak from a tank. If you want to build and maintain a positive attitude, get into the habit of living in the present and doing it now. Learn the phrase ‘do it now’ and stop procrastination.
Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count on your blessings, not your troubles. We are so focused on complaining about things we don’t have that we lose right of things we have. There is a lot to be thankful for. But at the same tome, it does not mean that you become complacent, a smug. It is only to preserve energies that you waste on complaining about your troubles.
Build a positive self-esteem. Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. When we feel good within, our performance goes up, relationships improve both at home and at work. The world looks nicer. There is a direct correlation between feeling and behavior. If you want build positive self-esteem quickly, one of the fastest ways is to do something for others who cannot repay you in cash or kind. As human beings, we all have the need to receive and take. But a healthy personality with high self-esteem is one that not only has its need to take but also to give.
Stay away from negative influences. If you want to soar like an eagle, you have to learn the ways of an eagle. If you associate with achievers, you will become one. If you associate with thinkers, you will become one. If you associate with givers, you will become one. If you associate with complainers, you will become one. Whenever people succeed in life, petty people will take cracks at them and try to pull them down. In order to fight petty people, you have to come down to their level. Don’t let negative people drag you down. When you refuse to fight petty people, you win. Remember, a person’s character is not only judged by the company he or she keeps but also by the company he or she avoids.Learn to like the things that need to be done. Some things need to be done whether we like them or not. For example, mothers caring for their young. They may be not fun and games, and may even be painful. But if we learn to like the task, the impossible becomes possible. Someone said, “Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”
Start your day with a positive. Read or listen to something positive first thing in the morning. After a good night’s sleep we are relaxed and our subconscious is receptive. It sets the tone for the day, and puts us in the right frame of mind to make every day a positive day. In order to bring about change, we need to make a conscious effort and be committed to make positive thoughts and behavior part of our lives. Practice having positive thoughts until they become a habit.

Finally, if you are going to change your life, you need to start immediately and do it flamboyantly.
POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND SUCCESS
Positive attitude gives hope. Positive attitude reassures you. Positive attitude is a mental trait of seeing light in darkness. If you are a person of positive temperament you always see the brighter side of life. Why is it that?
If you say, I can, you will
If you say, I cannot, you will never

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare;
It is because we do not dare that they are difficult
…..Seneca
  • When most of the people say the glass is half empty, a few people emphasize that that the glass is half full.
  • When a task is assigned to two persons, one of them says it is difficult and cannot be done, the other person says it requires more effort and can be done.
  • When the weary army of Alexander the great refused to move beyond Indus, saying fighting any longer was an Impossible task, Alexander said Indus can be crossed and the kings beyond Indus can be defeated and he did.
  • When Napolean command his army to cross Alps, they said “it was impossible” Napolean replied, “the word impossible is written in the dictionary of fools.”

The answer is positive attitude.

There is an intimate link between success & positive attitude. No one who has ever been successful has in his journey ever said ‘quite’. No one who has ever been successful has ever lost hope in his journey to success. No one who has said ‘impossible’ to a task has ever gone on to make it possible. But the contrary is often true:

The Gita speaks of attitude. Critics have failed to understand the attitude highlighted by the Gita. Gita upholds the non-attached attitude as the highest virtue. Non-attached action has the following advantages.
  • You can work without fear of favor
  • You are committed to work only
  • Your performance level is high
  • You’re fully absorbed in your work
  • There is no hindrance or distraction for you
  • The chances of your success are very high.

The critics interpret non-attachment as something not humanly possible. According to them no one can work without motivation. But this is the view of the western scholars. Indian ethos is substantially different. Also, the interpretation of non-attachment as above, is misleading. Non-attachment merely means doing your work for the intrinsic worth that lies in doing it and not because of reward or remuneration associated with it. This is quite logical. ‘Work’ is the only thing you have control over. You have no jurisdiction over the fruits associated with your work. This attitude allows you to take failure in its stride. This attitude lets you have the peace of your mind. This attitude lets you going even under struggle and difficult circumstances. This is truly the attitude all successful people possess.

Darcy E. Gibbons says, “Success is just a matter of attitude”. A finely tempered nature longs to escape from the personal life into the world of objective perception and thought.

All the great works in the world have been achieved when men have gone beyond the narrow confines of their personal self & ego. That is the attitude to work one should have.

Think of any great deed like founding of an organization or the movements for the freedom of nations or even great inventions or emergence of higher and evolved social values. All such great deeds have involved tremendous sacrifice and will power. They would not have been possible if leaders and visionaries were selfish, egoist and involved in their personal gain only.
Attitude and effectiveness are two pillars of success. In the beginning we spoke something about attitude. Let us elaborate a little more on attitude.
  • Why is it that when the same topic is taught by two professors, students kike the one and not the other? The answer is attitude.
  • Why is it that when a problem arises one man begins to quarrel and fight, but faced with the same problem, the other man solves the problem with out quarreling.
  • Why is it that when the performance of two students is poor, the one begins to improve but the other deteriorates further? The answer is attitude.
  • Your attitude is the sum total of what you are as a person and as an individual.

Dr. Shiv-Khera treats self-esteem as a positive attitude under an independent heading. According to him, self-esteem works like magic in our life. Self-esteem is not ego, self-esteem is the strong value you attach to yourself as an individual. It was the self-esteem in illiterate Kalidas which transformed his life and he went on to become the most learned individual of his time.

What man thinks of himself: that is what determines or rather indicates, his fate.
............. Henry David Thoreau

Simply put, self esteem is what you think about yourself. What you think about yourself can be interpret in term of a set of characters you hold about yourself. These could be honesty, helpfulness, intelligent, responsible etc. this in turn influences everything, from our performance at work, our relationships an our role as parents, to our accomplishments in life. Your attitude to others and to different aspects of life flows out of your self-esteem. It determines your success. Self-esteem leads you to perform and to prove. It is an internal driver. It unconsciously works on you and in your behavior towards others. People believe you only when you believe in yourself self-esteem reinforce your faith in your-self. All the achievers have a high opinion of themselves. They have high self-esteem. They are optimistic, motivated and ambitious. They are sensitive. They can perform and take risks. They discover opportunities and challenges.

If you don’t have a high self-esteem, you will most probably breakdown after a failure thinking what you got was what you deserves. If you don’t you have a high self esteem. Amitabh Bachchan did’t quit even after a series of flop films right in he beginning of his career.

I remember, a small incident. I had gone to a fair with my young nephew, about 7 or 8 years old. He wanted to shoot at balloons pasted across the wall. For Rs. 5, he three chances to fire at the balloons. He misfired and wasted all his three attempts. He told me he wanted to take the shoot again I refused saying it was no use wasting more money on something he could not perform. That thing struck him; he insisted he can do it. Reluctantly, I let him take shots. This time, he again could not be successful. By mow, I was completely fed up. But he grew more determined. He simply refused to move from there. Now I warned him, if you cannot do it this time, I would not hear anything and I would simply move away from there. He was serious, quiet and determined. He didn’t protest and promised instead that this would be his last chance. He took another round of shots. The first one went bang on the target. I thought, it was perhaps by chance that he did it. But to my surprise the other two shots also hit the targets. Now I volunteered to let him have the next chance. This time I asked him to shoot at the specific balloon pointing out its position and color. He did it. From then on, he shot any balloon that I pointed out to him. He had truly emerged successful. I realized what great role, self-esteem can play in one’s life.
Self-esteem shows up in minor little things of life. Slowly and gradually it shows up in bigger and bigger achievements.
Self esteem is but, one of the measure indicator of attitude. Your attitude reflects in your personality and the body language. Your attitude- positive & negative reflects in what your speak and how you judge, how you behave under adverse and trying circumstances. Your attitude reflects in the opinion about others you hold.
Respecting and smiling at other people and clleagues doesn't mean a thing, if you criticise them at their back. Parroting lofty ideas, does not mean a thing if you do not follow them.

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